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Psalm 137 – Entrusting God With Our Hatreds

2009 December 1
by Mike

A collection of sermons on the book of Psalms entitled An Honest Cry will soon be rolling off the press by Leafwood Publishing. The book is a tribute to Prentice Meador. (You can order the book through or by calling toll free 877-816-4455.)

With the publisher’s permission, I’m including below my sermon on Psalm 137. I hope it doesn’t discourage you from checking out the many other messages that were collected.

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“Entrusting God With Our Hatreds”
Psalm 137
(Mike Cope)

By the rivers of Babylon we sat and wept
When we remembered Zion.
There on the poplars
We hung our harps,
For there our captors asked us for songs,
Our tormentors demanded songs of joy;
They said, “Sing us one of the songs of Zion!”

How can we sing the songs of the Lord while in a foreign land?
If I forget you, Jerusalem,
May my right hand forget its skill.
May my tongue cling to the roof of my mouth
If I do not remember you.
If I do not consider Jerusalem
My highest joy.

Remember, Lord, what the Edomites did
On the day Jerusalem fell.
“Tear it down,” they cried,
“tear it down to its foundations!”
Daughter Babylon, doomed to destruction,
Happy are those who repay you
According to what you have done to us.
Happy are those who seize your infants
And dash them against the rocks.

(Psalm 137, TNIV)

Lord, may this ancient word of scripture – anger-filled though it is! – speak to us again this morning. Though its words of rage sound offensive to us, we admit that we’re grateful for scriptures that reflect the fullness of human life rather than scriptures that foster denial. For we do battle anger . . . and even hatred . . . and even feelings of bitterness and revenge. Please pour through me this morning the gift of preaching that we might be confronted by your word, and through it move toward Jesus Christ, the one who prayed, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” And in him we hope and pray, amen.

It’s Sunday morning, and again three wounded people have walked into the church’s assembly – with their wounds carefully hidden, of course.

The first is a 32-year-old wife and mom. After her first marriage ended, she found the man who could make her happy. At least that’s what she thought. But those angry outbursts before they married became brutal, savage beatings after she married. Now she’s trying to figure out how to get out to protect her children and herself without getting killed. “Rejoice in the Lord always,” the scripture reading says as everyone nods in agreement.

The second is a man who’s been set up and financially destroyed by his business partner. Through no fault of his own (other than perhaps naïve trust), he’s suddenly left in a precarious legal position. On top of that, everything is about to break publicly so that his wife and kids will be embarrassed. He’s even thought, briefly, about suicide. “And again I say it, rejoice!”

The third is the parent of a child who was killed by a drunk driver. The driver had already had a conviction for driving under the influence, and the night of the wreck was completely smashed. But he walked away from the accident – and the courts, almost untouched.

My guess is that we’re all a bit embarrassed to have Psalm 137 read in our assembly. It’s shocking. And we can probably agree on this: it’s not the ethical peak of scripture. If we’re going to read a psalm, we prefer Psalm 23, thank you very much!

In a world where there is more than enough revenge, it doesn’t seem like the church needs to be hearing the words, “Happy are those who seize your infants and dash them against the rocks.” Do we really want to encourage this? Haven’t we been praying the Lord’s Prayer together for the past fifteen years so that words like “forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors” become a kind of default response – not “dash their infants”?

Of course, let’s admit that Psalm 137 isn’t a lone voice in the Psalms. Despite our attempts to turn Psalms into a sweet, precious-moments devotional book, there are many words of deep anger:

“Break the arm of the wicked and evil man.” (10:15)
“On the wicked he will rain fiery coals and burning sulfur.” (11:6)
“Break the teeth in their mouths, O God; Lord, tear out the fangs of those lions! Let them vanish like water that flows away; when they draw the bow, let their arrows fall short. May they be like a slug that melts away as it moves along, like a stillborn child that never sees the sun.” (58:6-8)

Psalm 137 is not a lone voice. But it certainly does seem like the most un-Christian voice. Dash their babies? Can you say that in scripture? As a result, many Christians want to perform what Eugene Peterson calls a Psalmectomy. We want to be at our very best before God. We want to speak words of devotion, courage, and faithfulness. What we don’t want is something that sounds like it came from the Taliban.

The problem with a Psalmectomy, however, is that it exorcises the voice of people like the ones I described: the abused woman, the betrayed business partner, the grieving parent – and many, many others.

If we take away passages like Psalm 137, we only leave them with a couple options.

Some will force themselves to pretend. They’ll make spirited efforts to forgive, but they’ll never quite be able to get there. Outwardly they may say the right words, but the resentment and rage remain. Buried. Without getting to express their anger, they have to pretend that there is none.

Others will become professional victims. They’ll basically give up on life, on courageous decisions, and on people. They know they were hurt, and they’re going to live out of that pain.

As Peterson says, Psalm 137 resists both of those moves. It doesn’t recommend hatred; rather, it expresses the feelings that are there. Only then can one move beyond.

The people of God had been exiled from Jerusalem to Babylon in 587 B.C. Now from exile, they’re remembering Jerusalem. “By the rivers of Babylon we sat and wept when we remembered Zion.” And as if that isn’t enough, the captors are mocking them by insisting that they sing “songs of joy” from Zion. (Sadly, that very thing happened again to Jews during World War 2 at one of the concentration camps. Jewish prisoners were forced to sing and dance songs of their heritage – one final way to take away any remaining dignity.)

So the psalmist evokes God’s severest judgment on both the Babylonians who had destroyed Jerusalem and on the Edomites who stood to the side and cheered the Babylonians on.

It’s after asking the Lord to remember the enemies that he exclaims, “Happy [or Blessed] are those who seize your infants and dash them against the rocks.” Not exactly a beatitude we teach our children.

All right, so admittedly this isn’t the most noble moment of scripture. But it strikes me as honest. And before we write it off as being sub-Christian, perhaps we should ask what it accomplishes.

The writer takes his hatred to God, and in doing so – in bringing that raw sewage of enemy-hatred before the throne – he refuses to forgive too quickly. My own experience as a so-so forgiver tells me that Walter Brueggemann is right when he asks: “Could it be that genuine forgiveness is possible only when there has been a genuine articulation of hatred?” The hurt is real, and he refuses to pretend otherwise.

He also refuses to accept all the responsibility. He knows that there really are victims in this world. There are people who didn’t ask for what they got, who didn’t deserve what they got.

Our own versions of moralism (where you get what you deserve) seeps out in comments like this: “It takes two to destroy a marriage.” No it doesn’t! There usually are two sides to the story . . . but not always. Sometimes there is just someone doing evil and someone who is a victim.

The psalmist honors the freedom of the enemies by recognizing that they have a will and they have used the will for great harm.

But he won’t remain a victim. That’s not a role he’s auditioning for. He isn’t whining. He is praying – out loud! – his bold resistence to evil. He exposes it for what it is. He does battle with the evil by exposing it before God and by expressing his hurt, his anger, his red-hot bitterness.

But let me emphasize again: he takes this all to God. He prays it. Again, I think Brueggemann is right on target: “It is an act of profound faith to entrust one’s most precious hatreds to God, knowing they will be taken seriously.”

That word of scripture comes to the 32-year-old mother . . . and to the financially-destroyed business partner . . . and to the weary, teary parent . . . and to us. What will we do with all our anger – anger at real enemies in this real world?

Will we retaliate? Will we pay them back? Will it be eye-for-eye and tooth-for-tooth? Or will we, instead, bring this anger before God? Do we believe he’s able to handle the honesty of it all?

I know what we’re all wondering: but what about forgiveness? What about, “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they’re doing”? or “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors”? or “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times”? or “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven”?

True, Psalm 137 doesn’t get us there. “Kill their babies” is light-years from “love your enemies.” This isn’t the Sermon on the Mount.

It is, however, scripture. And its word to us is important. For before we can get to forgiveness, we have to be honest: honest to ourselves and honest before God.

I remember what Lewis Smedes said about forgiveness: that it has four stages: (1) we hurt; (2) we hate; (3) we heal; and (4) we come together. Listen again to those first two: we hurt, and we hate.

Psalm 137 isn’t vigilante justice. He isn’t heading out with a posse to round up all the infants. This isn’t King Herod! Rather, he’s trusting God to take the honest truth and deal with the venom. He takes his hatred to God and asks God to do what only he can do. For hatred will be fatal if it is allowed to remain and fester inside us.

Now here’s an important question: can we who follow Jesus Christ, the embodiment of forgiveness (and one who had enemies who killed him!), be trusted to hear Psalm 137? Can we hear it calling us to be honest before God about our bitterness without acting in retaliation? Can we be people of faith who’ll entrust our most precious hatreds to him, knowing that he’ll take them seriously and deal with them on his own terms? Can we begin here with this honest pain and continue on the journey toward love of enemy and forgiveness? Can we remind each other that God is in control and any vengeance that’s called for is his and not ours?

Let us pray:

Dear Lord of Justice and Compassion,

We bring our hatreds to you this morning. Here in the presence of your saints, we offer them to you. Some have been abandoned or abused by spouses. Some have been burned by business partners. Some have been gossiped about. Some were emotionally abused by parents. Some have been violated by monsters. Some have been lied to; others have been traumatically rejected. Some have lost loved ones to drunk drives. And some have seen on TV the faces of evil people who bring terror into our world.

We bring these to you because we don’t want to be dominated by our hatred. We want to be free of it.

So today, Lord, please take over for us. If revenge needs to happen, you do it. We can’t. As sinners, we are too blind in our anger. And besides, in one way or another, we have contributed to the darkness of the world. We’re in no position to judge.

Having given this hatred to you, please fashion us into the image of Jesus Christ, who, when his enemies hurled insults at him, did not retaliate; who, when he suffered, made no threats; who, in the presence of those crucifying him, prayed, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they’re doing.” And by his wounds we have been healed.

As we face our pain honestly this morning, hear our cries. Hear our pleas for justice in this world. Hear our thanks that your justice is mixed with mercy. And fashion us into a people who know true, rugged, courageous forgiveness.

Through Christ we pray, amen.

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19 Responses leave one →
  1. December 1, 2009

    An outstanding sermon.

  2. December 1, 2009

    Thank you for posting this sermon (it is encouraging to hear sermon talk honestly about how we feel sometimes, perhaps many times) and advertising the book…I’ll look forward to getting a copy of the book.

    Grace and peace,


  3. December 1, 2009

    Prentice and I passionately journeyed through 20 years of engaging in providing Christmas to over 900 kids in 10 elementary schools in the metroplex. I learned about the Grace of God, helping people with Aids, reaching out and loving those with a difference lifestyle, learned the meaning of lovng God with all my heart, and I learned intergity, honor and values through his sermons each Sunday at Prestoncrest. Prentice… I miss you so much!!!!


    Joe Almanza

  4. December 1, 2009

    Beautiful sermon. I needed that — but I also need the next sermon in the series… the one on forgiveness. Thanks for writing.

  5. December 2, 2009

    This sermon is good even in print. That’s hard for a sermon to do. Nice work, and a fine tribute to Prentice’s ministry of the Word.

  6. Deb permalink
    December 2, 2009

    Thx, Pastor. This gave me food for thought.
    Please share more of your sermons here.

  7. Ken Hines permalink
    December 2, 2009

    A well-crafted lesson that speaks to my heart! I also would like to see more of your sermons here from time to time. Thanks, Mike.

  8. Don permalink
    December 2, 2009

    Thanks Mike for the reminder of what to do with our bitterness. I’ve learned that God can handle all our emotions and breathe into them the work of his Holy Spirit so we don’t stay stuck. God continue to bless you and your work.

  9. annie permalink
    December 2, 2009

    It’s funny how I came to Psalms 137—from the plaintive, woeful “On The Willows” from “Godspell” a few years ago. Had to find out where the writer of the musical got the words to write it…..

  10. December 2, 2009

    Very beautifully written. Thank you.

  11. December 2, 2009

    Don, “and breathe into them the work of his Holy Spirit so we don’t stay stuck.”

    Also very beautifully written. Thank you.

  12. Kathy permalink
    December 2, 2009

    The reminder of this beautiful sermon brought back the emotion of missing you – hearing you preach to our hearts and souls. Looking forward to the day you visit our pulpit at Highland!! 🙂 Miss you greatly, dear pastor/teacher/friend!!

  13. Mark Meador permalink
    December 2, 2009

    Mike – Thank you so much for contributing to this book to honor dad. He would be thrilled to know that you are a part of this collection. Reading through your sermon reminds me of how much we miss hearing your words each Sunday. Thank you for the great memories. You mean so much to our family and we love you.

  14. December 2, 2009

    Mark – It was an honor to get to preach to two of Prentice’s children. Blessing on all of you this holiday.

  15. December 9, 2009

    I’m reading through Mere Christianity right now, and one of the things that smacked me good and hard straight in the forehead is Lewis’ idea that there is nothing in this world that is bad in and of itself, but instead, bad is simply good done wrong. Maybe it’s the wrong time, maybe it’s the wrong way, maybe it’s the wrong reason. But “bad” cannot exist by itself. “Bad” has to be set up against “Good”, even though “Good” CAN exist by itself.

    God hates. Straight up says that in the Bible, like, a bunch of times. So… obviously, then, hate is not actually a bad thing in itself.

    It’s like Ecclesiastes (and The Byrds) said: To everything there is a season.

    It’s just constantly blowing my mind how inclusive that “everything” part really is.

    That’s what reading this made me think of. I enjoyed it. Good stuff.

  16. Kathy permalink
    December 9, 2009

    Still giggling with you. LOL

    “Still smile when I think of old Chr Chron editorial that said the partic of women in assembly would bring cleavage to the church.”

    btw- wasn’t it about this time 2 years ago that Chris was baptized? Where, oh where does time fly off to these days????

  17. tessy permalink
    October 14, 2011

    thank you and God richly bless you. Indeed God has spoken to me thru you.
    Have a blessed weekend.

  18. Jgrossman permalink
    August 30, 2012

    This is wonderful, and I took home many thoughts from it, thank you.

  19. Jeff Short permalink
    July 2, 2013

    Just preparing or Sunday feeling this “How shall we sing the Lord’s song” is the way to go. Looked up your thoughts and have the realisation that we sing our songs with honesty or not at all.

    Thanks for your thoughts – I won’t preach your sermon (promise) but mine will go in a different direction.
    God bless you

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