Comments on: Wounded Marriages http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages Sniffing out the work of God in the world... Fri, 18 May 2012 14:25:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Making Relationships Work http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-81744 Making Relationships Work Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:24:36 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-81744 Top Stuff. keep it up, but more links to other sites would help me more too. Top Stuff. keep it up, but more links to other sites would help me more too.

]]> By: imparare http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-61353 imparare Sun, 15 Apr 2007 06:06:55 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-61353 Interesting comments.. :D Interesting comments.. :D

]]> By: Dr BLT http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-42870 Dr BLT Mon, 22 Jan 2007 22:17:14 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-42870 Sorry, here's the corrected link: http://www.drblt.net/music/firstCut2.mp3 Sorry, here’s the corrected link:
http://www.drblt.net/music/firstCut2.mp3

]]> By: Dr BLT http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-42869 Dr BLT Mon, 22 Jan 2007 22:16:14 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-42869 Those who get divorced for the first time may not realize how much pain and suffering follows. It's like that old song by the man formerly known as Cat Stevens (covered here by yours truly): The First Cut is the Deepest Dr BLT cover http://www.drblt.net/music/firstCut.mp3 Those who get divorced for the first time may not realize how much pain and suffering follows. It’s like that old song by the man formerly known as Cat Stevens (covered here by yours truly):

The First Cut is the Deepest
Dr BLT cover
http://www.drblt.net/music/firstCut.mp3

]]> By: Jack Applegate http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-41309 Jack Applegate Tue, 16 Jan 2007 11:16:09 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-41309 Google is the best search engine Google is the best search engine

]]> By: Becky Brooks http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12324 Becky Brooks Fri, 09 Jun 2006 22:47:24 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12324 Mike- I am one of many who love reading what the Lord puts on your heart. He so often works through your words to make me dive deeper into His Word. I am so thankful to learn from you in this way. Recently I attended a class taught by Jamie Atchley and Suzy Jeffrey (my mom) on Marriage. It was a three part series 1-What to expect 2-How to respect 3-what not to neglect. (Rick helped with the titles I think:)) I went to support my mom, I came back each week because I realized everything they were talking about my heart needed to hear. I was blessed by the level of honesty and vulnerability of these two women. They were honest in their struggles and honest in their victories. I heard my mom tell stories I had never heard and I gained even more respect for her and my dad and their marriage as a result of them. It blessed my marriage in ways I never expected. I see (and obviously they saw) a deep need for more "realness" in sharing about marriage...more public acknowledgement that it is hard. Honestly, when my husband and I had our first disagreement on our honeymoon I was devastated...here I thought I had married perfection...But obviously he wasn't- he did not agree with me. :) I say all of this to say...thanks- Love your thoughts and love that you are encouraging more people to be real in the reality of life. I think sometimes people almost need "permission" to struggle. If everyone else looks like they are not then people see struggle as a sign of the end...posts like this actually point people to the fact that struggle is often the beginning of something really beautiful. The Lord is The Master at bringing beauty from ashes. May His very presence continue to be with you and your family! Becky Mike-

I am one of many who love reading what the Lord puts on your heart. He so often works through your words to make me dive deeper into His Word. I am so thankful to learn from you in this way.

Recently I attended a class taught by Jamie Atchley and Suzy Jeffrey (my mom) on Marriage. It was a three part series 1-What to expect 2-How to respect 3-what not to neglect. (Rick helped with the titles I think:))

I went to support my mom, I came back each week because I realized everything they were talking about my heart needed to hear. I was blessed by the level of honesty and vulnerability of these two women. They were honest in their struggles and honest in their victories. I heard my mom tell stories I had never heard and I gained even more respect for her and my dad and their marriage as a result of them.

It blessed my marriage in ways I never expected. I see (and obviously they saw) a deep need for more “realness” in sharing about marriage…more public acknowledgement that it is hard. Honestly, when my husband and I had our first disagreement on our honeymoon I was devastated…here I thought I had married perfection…But obviously he wasn’t- he did not agree with me. :)

I say all of this to say…thanks- Love your thoughts and love that you are encouraging more people to be real in the reality of life. I think sometimes people almost need “permission” to struggle. If everyone else looks like they are not then people see struggle as a sign of the end…posts like this actually point people to the fact that struggle is often the beginning of something really beautiful. The Lord is The Master at bringing beauty from ashes.

May His very presence continue to be with you and your family!

Becky

]]> By: Lori Clark http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12311 Lori Clark Fri, 09 Jun 2006 14:30:24 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12311 Thanks Mike~ It is hard to find balance in this day and age. I understand that you have posted on this before. THere are those with feelings of giving up to easy. Thanks, Lori Thanks Mike~
It is hard to find balance in this day and age. I understand that you have posted on this before. THere are those with feelings of giving up to easy.
Thanks,
Lori

]]> By: John http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12305 John Fri, 09 Jun 2006 11:21:08 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12305 "John - I have that in the back of my mind. To understand “kingdom” as fully come (possibly as the church) or as fully future is to miss a central message of scripture. So, I’m wanting to wait until I can develop this in more than my normal 5-minute flurry! Thanks." Hi Mike: I hope you can deal with this soon, as this is a subject that I am really struggling to understand. G'ampa C says you have preached on it, so I figured you had it pretty well formulated in your mind. All the best, John “John – I have that in the back of my mind. To understand “kingdom” as fully come (possibly as the church) or as fully future is to miss a central message of scripture. So, I’m wanting to wait until I can develop this in more than my normal 5-minute flurry! Thanks.”

Hi Mike:

I hope you can deal with this soon, as this is a subject that I am really struggling to understand. G’ampa C says you have preached on it, so I figured you had it pretty well formulated in your mind.

All the best,
John

]]> By: Linda http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12304 Linda Fri, 09 Jun 2006 09:50:26 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12304 Love the post and the follow up comments...love it love it love it! Love the post and the follow up comments…love it love it love it!

]]> By: Mike http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12302 Mike Fri, 09 Jun 2006 04:56:36 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12302 Lori - That's why I very carefully began the blog with "some people." Not everyone. People shouldn't stay in abusive situations. I've written about that before, but not here. I've written several times about how the church should be hard on divorce but gentle with people who are divorced. And I've written about how it's wrong to always say there are two sides. But this post is what divorced people have often encouraged me to speak about and write about: the tendency of couples to give up too easily. Lori – That’s why I very carefully began the blog with “some people.” Not everyone. People shouldn’t stay in abusive situations. I’ve written about that before, but not here. I’ve written several times about how the church should be hard on divorce but gentle with people who are divorced. And I’ve written about how it’s wrong to always say there are two sides.

But this post is what divorced people have often encouraged me to speak about and write about: the tendency of couples to give up too easily.

]]> By: Lori Clark http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12301 Lori Clark Fri, 09 Jun 2006 01:16:17 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12301 Sorry my 1 yo hit the submit button. I don't think people just throw in the towel over one or even two issues. In our congregation, I have helped to talk to this group and they didn't want their marriages to fail. It is embarissing, even in this day and age to have failed marriages. To many times we (the church) just assume that it is a two way street. In many instances abuse on some level has occured. How does an abused person read these statements? Maybe this is why in our divorce recovery ministries, they struggle with guilt. They hear us talk about how people "throw away" marriages, and we don't realize that most of them agonized over the decision to divorce. Sometimes divorce has to happen to have peace in the home. Sorry my 1 yo hit the submit button. I don’t think people just throw in the towel over one or even two issues. In our congregation, I have helped to talk to this group and they didn’t want their marriages to fail. It is embarissing, even in this day and age to have failed marriages. To many times we (the church) just assume that it is a two way street. In many instances abuse on some level has occured. How does an abused person read these statements? Maybe this is why in our divorce recovery ministries, they struggle with guilt. They hear us talk about how people “throw away” marriages, and we don’t realize that most of them agonized over the decision to divorce. Sometimes divorce has to happen to have peace in the home.

]]> By: Lori Clark http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12300 Lori Clark Fri, 09 Jun 2006 01:05:27 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12300 We must be careful though because of all the couples I have known to get divorced it was not an easy decision. I don' We must be careful though because of all the couples I have known to get divorced it was not an easy decision. I don’

]]> By: Kelley http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12298 Kelley Thu, 08 Jun 2006 20:35:38 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12298 10 years ago, we were married just 9 years and we almost called it quits. We had forgotten why we loved each other to begin with. Our love had fallen flat. But because of our commitment to God, we worked hard to bring things back to life. Now, as I posted yesterday, our marriage is better than I ever imagined it would be. Sometimes things have to get bad before you realize how good you really want them to be. God used our time of trouble to strengthen the love that binds us. But if asked, we will both admit, it was our love for the Lord and our commitment to Him that saved our marriage. Because without that, there wouldn't have been enough reason left at that point to make it work. God saved our marriage, just like He gave us our marriage. And now He keeps making our marriage all HE wants it to be. God is so faithful and sure. Even when and most especially when we are not. 10 years ago, we were married just 9 years and we almost called it quits. We had forgotten why we loved each other to begin with. Our love had fallen flat. But because of our commitment to God, we worked hard to bring things back to life. Now, as I posted yesterday, our marriage is better than I ever imagined it would be. Sometimes things have to get bad before you realize how good you really want them to be. God used our time of trouble to strengthen the love that binds us. But if asked, we will both admit, it was our love for the Lord and our commitment to Him that saved our marriage. Because without that, there wouldn’t have been enough reason left at that point to make it work. God saved our marriage, just like He gave us our marriage. And now He keeps making our marriage all HE wants it to be.
God is so faithful and sure. Even when and most especially when we are not.

]]> By: Leland http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12297 Leland Thu, 08 Jun 2006 20:30:18 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12297 My wife looked at me in anger, rage and hatred and told me she loved me. She shouldn't have but she did and I stand now a changed man forever. In that moment I realized I had nearly lost the best thing about me and how precious she really was. I am truly honored to call her my wife and my friend. We have been married 17 years with no end in sight. Like Bill Nash told me: "It is ammazing what we can do when we pull our head out of our ass." Tried to think of another way to put it but if it good enough for Bill it is good enough for me. Sorry in advance. My wife looked at me in anger, rage and hatred and told me she loved me. She shouldn’t have but she did and I stand now a changed man forever.

In that moment I realized I had nearly lost the best thing about me and how precious she really was.

I am truly honored to call her my wife and my friend. We have been married 17 years with no end in sight.

Like Bill Nash told me: “It is ammazing what we can do when we pull our head out of our ass.” Tried to think of another way to put it but if it good enough for Bill it is good enough for me. Sorry in advance.

]]> By: KentF http://preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages/comment-page-1#comment-12296 KentF Thu, 08 Jun 2006 20:25:05 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/06/08/wounded-marriages#comment-12296 Thanks Mike - wonderful words. I was actually thinking this last night....It seems we fight against alot these days - gay marriage, women dressing modestly, Hollywood, etc. When's the last time the Church fought FOR marriage? Just wondering. Thanks Mike – wonderful words. I was actually thinking this last night….It seems we fight against alot these days – gay marriage, women dressing modestly, Hollywood, etc. When’s the last time the Church fought FOR marriage? Just wondering.

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