Comments on: An Interview With Dr. Jackie Halstead http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead Sniffing out the work of God in the world... Tue, 02 Dec 2008 13:43:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Hooteewho http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9445 Hooteewho Mon, 20 Mar 2006 13:38:49 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9445 Mike would you have Jackie address what to do when one parent lets go and grow, and the other parent wants to over protect? Thanks for such a good post today! Mike would you have Jackie address what to do when one parent lets go and grow, and the other parent wants to over protect?

Thanks for such a good post today!

]]> By: Teresa http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9442 Teresa Sun, 19 Mar 2006 03:16:20 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9442 Jackie Halstead is one of my personal heroes. Thanks so much for posting this wise interview. Jackie Halstead is one of my personal heroes. Thanks so much for posting this wise interview.

]]> By: Calvin (G'ampa C) http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9441 Calvin (G'ampa C) Sat, 18 Mar 2006 21:29:57 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9441 Mike/ Jackie Watching the goings-on in the church nursery and watching my own children, I am convinced that parenting to prepare starts as soon as the child can answer the question "What do you think???...." and the parenting to protect might last as long as the child/ adolescent/ adult is willing to ask the parent "What do you think???". Somewhere in between they launch out on their own. I think, for my family, the enmeshment is deeper when it goes both ways. I have had to learn to accept my children as I would any other individual, on their own terms. It is, for me, a miraculous, rich, intoxicating moment when I discover my child has become a really good friend. Mike/ Jackie
Watching the goings-on in the church nursery and watching my own children, I am convinced that parenting to prepare starts as soon as the child can answer the question “What do you think???….” and the parenting to protect might last as long as the child/ adolescent/ adult is willing to ask the parent “What do you think???”. Somewhere in between they launch out on their own. I think, for my family, the enmeshment is deeper when it goes both ways. I have had to learn to accept my children as I would any other individual, on their own terms. It is, for me, a miraculous, rich, intoxicating moment when I discover my child has become a really good friend.

]]> By: Amy http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9440 Amy Sat, 18 Mar 2006 21:13:06 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9440 Thank you for your interview. This is very helpful as we are in the parenting to prepare stage. It can seem overwhelming at times to know when to hold tight and when to let go. Thank you for your interview. This is very helpful as we are in the parenting to prepare stage. It can seem overwhelming at times to know when to hold tight and when to let go.

]]> By: Allen http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9439 Allen Sat, 18 Mar 2006 21:00:36 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9439 oh, nevermind! found it in the archives! :) oh, nevermind! found it in the archives! :)

]]> By: Allen http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9438 Allen Sat, 18 Mar 2006 20:59:12 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9438 Its been a while since i visited the site. Love the stuff on "The Bible". I can't get back onto the old blog to read The Bible #1 and #2. Is it possible these can be reposted on the new blog so the whole series is together? Excellent series!! Its been a while since i visited the site. Love the stuff on “The Bible”. I can’t get back onto the old blog to read The Bible #1 and #2. Is it possible these can be reposted on the new blog so the whole series is together? Excellent series!!

]]> By: Lori http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9437 Lori Sat, 18 Mar 2006 19:37:31 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9437 This is also great advice for someone who is marrying into an "enmeshed" family, which will soon be my case. I now have a better of understanding of my future husband's family. Thank you. Blessings! This is also great advice for someone who is marrying into an “enmeshed” family, which will soon be my case. I now have a better of understanding of my future husband’s family. Thank you. Blessings!

]]> By: SG http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9436 SG Sat, 18 Mar 2006 18:59:28 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9436 I am so grateful for this interview. What a great resource for parents! It seems like there are different levels and simultaneous stages of parenting to protect and parenting to prepare. For instance, at age 8 my daughter has gained some independence with her school work. Though I help her when needed and make sure I know what she is doing, it is HER homework and her responsibility. When it comes to buying clothes, I let her choose what she likes from items I have already decided are appropriate. When it comes to sleepover or playdate invitations at others kids houses, I am VERY careful and VERY involved. I want to know the parents well and know I am sending my daughter into a safe environment. Sometimes i am more in protect than prepare mode and vice versa. At what general age do you think it is appropriate to go into complete "parenting to prepare " mode? I am so grateful for this interview. What a great resource for parents! It seems like there are different levels and simultaneous stages of parenting to protect and parenting to prepare. For instance, at age 8 my daughter has gained some independence with her school work. Though I help her when needed and make sure I know what she is doing, it is HER homework and her responsibility. When it comes to buying clothes, I let her choose what she likes from items I have already decided are appropriate. When it comes to sleepover or playdate invitations at others kids houses, I am VERY careful and VERY involved. I want to know the parents well and know I am sending my daughter into a safe environment. Sometimes i am more in protect than prepare mode and vice versa.
At what general age do you think it is appropriate to go into complete “parenting to prepare ” mode?

]]> By: Elizabeth C. http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9433 Elizabeth C. Sat, 18 Mar 2006 16:35:24 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9433 Great advice! Thank you. We are definitely in the "parenting to prepare" phase and I need the Father's help daily. It's tough letting go of these precious ones! Great advice! Thank you. We are definitely in the “parenting to prepare” phase and I need the Father’s help daily. It’s tough letting go of these precious ones!

]]> By: clint http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9432 clint Sat, 18 Mar 2006 15:57:20 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9432 I agree, I plan on starting the “parenting to prepare” style on my little girl soon but not to soon she has only been married for two years. And I have wondered how the parenting styles of biblical times (families live together) and today (kids move out) would differ if at all. I agree, I plan on starting the “parenting to prepare” style on my little girl soon but not to soon she has only been married for two years. And I have wondered how the parenting styles of biblical times (families live together) and today (kids move out) would differ if at all.

]]> By: paul http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9431 paul Sat, 18 Mar 2006 13:30:35 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9431 Letting go and letting grow. It is a challenge! I think that task begins when they are small. You talk to them about big themes. Teach them what is important. Let them see how you live it in your life. Give them room to try it but safety to have you nearby. Letting go and letting grow. It is a challenge! I think that task begins when they are small. You talk to them about big themes. Teach them what is important. Let them see how you live it in your life. Give them room to try it but safety to have you nearby.

]]> By: David http://preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9430 David Sat, 18 Mar 2006 13:27:53 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/2006/03/18/an-interview-with-dr-jackie-halstead#comment-9430 Great advice on parenting! "First, take it to the Father" "-- that'll preach" as one of our Harding professors would say. Great advice on parenting! “First, take it to the Father” “– that’ll preach” as one of our Harding professors would say.

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