Comments on: Help Us to Be Protective . . . But Not Overprotective! http://preachermike.com/2004/08/24/109334924203783327 Sniffing out the work of God in the world... Thu, 08 Jan 2009 18:08:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Jim Tyson http://preachermike.com/2004/08/24/109334924203783327#comment-41279 Jim Tyson Tue, 16 Jan 2007 11:13:55 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/?p=312#comment-41279 Google is the best search engine Google is the best search engine

]]> By: Steve Duer http://preachermike.com/2004/08/24/109334924203783327#comment-1090 Steve Duer Wed, 15 Sep 2004 18:56:00 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/?p=312#comment-1090 I am a social worker who loves analogies and your comments reminded me of a favorite: Families are like water You put water in it's most rigid form (ice) apply stress and you can actually break water. SOme families are not flexible and if things don't happen their way it leads to break downs. You pour water on the ground you end up with mud. You can tell where the water ends and the ground begins. Like parents who don't have any boundaries - you can't tell who is the kids and who are the adults. Healthy familes are like swimming pools. Rigid boundaries with room to allow waves. I can jump into a pool and do a cannonball (not that i would want to at 37 years of age and 200lbs) and the vast majority of the water stays in the pool. Health families know where their boundaries are and also give enough room to calm the waves of the cannonball's life sends us. Steve Duer I am a social worker who loves analogies and your comments reminded me of a favorite:
Families are like water
You put water in it’s most rigid form (ice) apply stress and you can actually break water. SOme families are not flexible and if things don’t happen their way it leads to break downs.

You pour water on the ground you end up with mud. You can tell where the water ends and the ground begins. Like parents who don’t have any boundaries - you can’t tell who is the kids and who are the adults.

Healthy familes are like swimming pools. Rigid boundaries with room to allow waves. I can jump into a pool and do a cannonball (not that i would want to at 37 years of age and 200lbs) and the vast majority of the water stays in the pool. Health families know where their boundaries are and also give enough room to calm the waves of the cannonball’s life sends us.

Steve Duer

]]> By: Greg http://preachermike.com/2004/08/24/109334924203783327#comment-1089 Greg Tue, 24 Aug 2004 17:26:00 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/?p=312#comment-1089 Amen. Amen.

]]> By: Joel Quile http://preachermike.com/2004/08/24/109334924203783327#comment-1088 Joel Quile Tue, 24 Aug 2004 12:58:00 +0000 http://www.preachermike.com/?p=312#comment-1088 And here is another sad point to the story. This is so cyclical in nature. Usually kids who grow up with no protection will end up being parents who don't (can't) protect their kids due to their age (11-14 yr old moms), low self esteem, selfishness or they just don't have the skills because they weren't handed off to them by their parents. And the same can be said of the kids who grow up with the parents feeding them with their own custom made silver spoons. They grow up with a sense of entitlement and a myopic world view that will be the fall of their own kids (if they even choose to have them ...) as their kids will inherit the "about me and my happiness gene." We've got to break the cycle. The problem is that the salt remains in the shaker and the light under the bowl. And I'm not talking about "the church." I'm challenging myself. Tell Diane I said, "thanks for being salt!" And here is another sad point to the story. This is so cyclical in nature. Usually kids who grow up with no protection will end up being parents who don’t (can’t) protect their kids due to their age (11-14 yr old moms), low self esteem, selfishness or they just don’t have the skills because they weren’t handed off to them by their parents. And the same can be said of the kids who grow up with the parents feeding them with their own custom made silver spoons. They grow up with a sense of entitlement and a myopic world view that will be the fall of their own kids (if they even choose to have them …) as their kids will inherit the “about me and my happiness gene.”

We’ve got to break the cycle.

The problem is that the salt remains in the shaker and the light under the bowl. And I’m not talking about “the church.” I’m challenging myself.

Tell Diane I said, “thanks for being salt!”

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